Every family is happy in its own way. All people are completely different with their interests and characters. Even opposites attract and over time, spouses find an approach to each other in family life, learn to give in, find activities that are interesting to both. But how often young families collapse or are on the verge of divorce because they have forgotten … Marriage is hard daily work for both. You can not let everything go to chance, hoping that love will endure all the tests.
Over time, love alone is simply not enough to forgive each other, even minor insults. Spouses are estranged, become strangers or just neighbors out of habit. They are no longer happy together, but it’s a pity to part. How not to become a hostage to the situation?
Keeping your personality in a relationship is great and right. Personal happiness of everyone in the family should not depend on another person. Such a relationship can destroy relationships. But nevertheless there should always be points of contact when spouses spend time together for their beloved and get pleasure from it. And this is not about compromise, when she hates football and every time forces herself to watch matches for his sake. Joint trips, travels, sports, diving, fishing, movies – where you can develop together, enjoy it, share interests.
When a loved one does not share your hobby – this may be one of the reasons for an extra quarrel. For example, a husband loves diving at sea, and his wife ignores him in every way. Sooner or later, the spouse will cease to share this topic with his beloved, will spend more time with friends, leave home, or even find someone who will support him in everything.
It is very important QUALITY pastime couples. Not just being in the same territory together – when he plays his console, but she is talking to her friend on the phone nearby – this is not counted. Play the console together, buy games for two and compete. Discuss the latest news, her new hairstyle and his problems at work. No need to shift these functions to friends, if it can be done together. Do not bring the situation to the fact that you will become completely uninteresting together.
Envy is the most insidious feeling that makes you doubt your choice. It is not true that best friends cannot envy each other. No, envy in this case is very quiet. Let them just compare yourself with other families and think “why am I wrong?”, These are the first bells.
You yourself know or at least feel that you need to be happy. But in no case should it be based on “one must live in such a way that they envy me”. This is not great. Do not equate to anyone, live your life for yourself (and not how others think about you).
There have been situations when everything is fine at home, but after meeting with friends, do you have doubts creep in? “Well, they bought a new car, but we didn’t,” “they go somewhere together all the time, and we sit at home,” “they are in such good physical shape, and we won’t get to the gym,” etc. Of course, you should always strive for the best, be better for each other, and not because Sasha and Vika are like that.
Such motivation should come only from you, try for each other. Then you don’t need to nibble your other half “why are you not the same as he / she?”.
Most often, we see only good things in other families, what they put on display and give you a chance to see. One gets a beautiful picture that causes this feeling of inferiority. But no one knows how valuable they have achieved this, what they have to go through, what problems they face in life (which is not customary to talk with friends). Very few people think about the other side of the medal when they set someone else as an example to a loved one.
The feeling of jealousy knocks off the intended path, sows discord and doubts in the family. Less compare yourself with others. Every family is unique. Emphasize your uniqueness, improve together, and do not imitate and copy others. And from those who envy you – keep away.
Perhaps one of the most important aspects of any relationship. Partners should arrange each other completely and let this part of life run their course – definitely not worth it. Diversity, satisfaction and regularity – the key to a happy relationship. The second half does not even look the other way, if it gets everything you need:
• Variety. So that was not boring. Even scientists say that with monotonous sex with the same partner decreases the production of the hormone of happiness – dopamine.
• Regularity. A great way to relieve stress for both partners, decreases the likelihood of finding the missing sex on the side, so why miss the opportunity to have fun. Lonely elbows bite, and married people always have a loved one! Use while you have the opportunity. Even once a week – it’s not enough, but better every day (through “I don’t want,” “laziness,” and “headache,” just start).
• Satisfaction. Be sincere with your partner. By feigning, you are deceiving each other and not giving a chance to improve. Do everything that every night brings pleasure to BOTH. Dissatisfaction with sex – everything is exactly what the lack of intimate relationships does.
Love each other sincerely, support, in spite of everything, and never look around. Each pair is special and comparing oneself with others simply doesn’t make sense.