Parting is always a painful experience, for both sexes. Just men know how to hide their emotions and even pretend that nothing significant has happened. By the way, girls are even more wounded when they see their ex-people having fun walking with friends or even with a new passion.
Virtually every girl can not overcome their desire to write a text message or even call a former lover. It seems to her that there is nothing terrible and humiliating in this. Believe me, this is very bad! You will plunge further into suffering.
So, from what mistakes you need to protect yourself after a break with the a guy?
- Do not write or call.
The hardest thing is not to communicate with a person with whom we have been in close contact for a long time. For example, you are used to sharing your feelings with a man, telling about your annoying colleague at work and throwing funny memes from the Internet during the day. But you broke up, and most likely, there was a good reason.
I recommend to block the former in all social networks, instant messengers and smartphone. Ideally, even change the mobile number (this is a radical measure). Gradually, you will notice that you are no longer so strong pulls a man to write sms, as before. As you begin to forget it.
Yes, and no farewell sms and tearful conversations on the topic “You will regret it!”. He will also regret how! Because all men are returning … However, this should not worry you and make you depressed.
- Do not answer his SMS or calls.
Here it is generally difficult to resist. Especially when there is hope in the soul for a truce. He can write touching sms or, on the contrary, angry texts, in any case do not respond to them.
A man can check you how dependent you are on him. It is pleasant to any person to think that someone is in his power. Get rid of your ex from this sweet feeling.
Moreover, when you ignore him, it puts the man in place. Silence will help maintain your self-esteem and increase the importance in the eyes of men. Let him know that you have a character!
- Do not agree on a relationship without obligation. Another trap for girls, which covers behind an innocent friendship with the former. During the relationship you have studied each other well and know how to give pleasure in bed. Why look for a new lover, if there is an old one? Girls do not see anything bad in a relationship without obligation with the former. Both pretend that this is a normal situation and try not to talk about past relationships. In this case, a man can really consider you just a girlfriend for intimate meetings, and you will continue to love him. In addition, the partner may begin to develop new relationships right before your eyes, which will hurt you even more. And you can not even argue, because you agreed that between you only friendship.
- Do not delay with suffering and loneliness.
It is always a pitiful sight when, after a break up, a girl walks down the street with tear-stained eyes, and in the evenings puts up sad posts on the social network.
I advise you to prepare a large plastic bag and walk with him through the apartment. In this bag you need to put all the things that are reminiscent of the former. Cute teddy bears, cards, underwear, photos – all this should go into the package. The next step is to clean up and leave the house. Go to have fun with your friends, arrange shopping or go for a male striptease! Anything! The main thing is not to be alone with sad thoughts. And forget about the popular advice for girls after breaking up: you need to wait for a pause and not rush to start a new relationship. No no. Hurry, also how! This advice is very harmful and only aggravates the emotional state of women after breaking up. I would reformulate it: Do not rush to start a serious relationship. But flirting is not prohibited and even very useful.
- Do not turn into a spy.
Sometimes girls can compete even professional undercover agents. They are so cleverly watching the life of the former man, cautiously questioning common friends and watching the pages in social networks, that James Bond himself would envy this talent.
If you are rejected, and you still continue to monitor your former partner, this is a sign of self-dislike. What do you care about his personal life, if a man showed you the door?
No matter how good the relationship was, but if they ended, you need to turn the page. The first time, when you start to miss the ex, I recommend to remember only the bad, in order to convince yourself of the correct behavior. And do not stay at home for more than a week.
When a man sees that his former chosen one was able to find the strength in herself and easily survived the break, he will want to return this woman. But that’s another story …